The importance of acknowledging your real feelings and dealing with them can free you to be the kind of friend He wants you to be. Without brushing away some cobwebs and first
being transparent with ourselves, we'll be limited to a very superficial kind of friendship with anyone else.
Any relationship that is built on trust, in such a friendship, nothing is hidden. This friendship is built on trust, and the relationship takes time to grow and develop. What better context for this kind of friendship to grow than in your marriage! How does your marriage measure up against this description? If you and your partner or wife don't share this kind of friendship, take this step, ask God to help you, guide and bless your efforts and then risk reaching out again.
Perhaps your relationship with your partner or your wife is being blocked by some pain that you are dealing with. Perhaps you find yourself in a tunnel of chaos, unable to walk out to her as you would like.
Then if that's the case let me encourage you to share your hurt with your partner or wife. Yes she needs to know and hear about it but first you may need to address that pain on your own.
Do not deny your problem, your feelings, or your questions. Go into that tunnel and feel the pain—refuse to deny the pain, the frustration, or the headache you're experiencing. We are deceitful and hypocritical when we deny such feelings. We are not being real when we mindlessly chant. Let's start counting it this way, our parents are imperfect and caused us pain, unemployment brings feelings of fear and anxiety; and abuse resulting to devastation beyond description. This is only a sample of the headache that is in this world and we need to face realities like these. These are best ways to share your feelings with your partner.
These are the best ways to express your feelings/share your feelings with Your Partner
1. We need to acknowledge our feelings of fear, loneliness, disappointment, and anger.
2. Honestly tell God how you feel. Often such authentic outpourings of frustration and anger are necessary steps on the path to wholeness and to genuine faith in God. If we don't ask these questions we will simply go through the motions of believing in God and never find an inner confidence in His infinite power or His unconditional love.
Always share your feelings—the good and the bad—with your God who is plenty big enough to deal with them and help you handle them.
3. Discuss your pain, disappointment, or headache with someone else—hopefully your partner— your wife or husband. Relief, comfort, and healing come when we share our inner hurts with someone else. The burden somehow seems lighter. Once overwhelming issues suddenly become manageable when your wife or husband, (partner) shows the understanding or that they understand. Often sharing problems bring insights or the suggestions of courses of action you haven't thought of. Almost always, sharing means less loneliness in your pain.
4. Always don't forget to seek professional if your unfinished business is weighty and emotionally debilitating.
However, having dealt with your feelings to some degree, if you haven't shared with your (partner) husband/wife, make an appointment to do so. Tell him/her where you hurt and explain that you truly want to be a friend to him/her, but your pain makes it hard for you right now. But if the idea of talking so openly to your partner and letting yourself be so vulnerable is up to you. That's you are not comfortable with it that way, I know this undoubtedly sounds frightening. But I can assure you that meeting the challenge will result in greater honesty and intimacy in your relationship and marriage.
You need to pray and also seek for a counsel. When you are ready for this our God will see you through and you will be surprised that you will surely pave way for a new source of strength for your relationship and marriage and you will see a good change, genuine and intimate friendship with your partner.
It is them that you will understand that friendship in relationship and marriage offers rich rewards. You will have to experience these truths about friendship. All you have to do is to cultivate friendship with your partner/mate. With this you will be close and intimate to share your problems, hurt and bad times even your good times together. It strengthens your relationship and marriage.
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